Another interesting docu-series by Netflix very similar to Tinder Swindler. Talks about what a wrong person or relationship can do to your life. It can be very disturbing watching this series. But knowing such stories makes you naturally aware and discerning ensuring self-preservation.
My personal assessment of Sarma is that she was a person with very high ethical and moral standards. She never wanted to do anything unfair and wrong. Hence when she realised, Shane had led her into a path that was just not right for her kinds, she kept up with it to see it the end and just get over with it.
When she got looped with Anthony aka Shane in a relationship she just wasn't in the best emotional phase of her life.
We all go through that phase where we feel, I wish someone would rescue me.
Here are some of the lessons I learned and would like to leave it as a note to every young girl who is in the process of defining herself, finding love, basically juggling life.
Feeling unsupported can be a major reason when we start getting attached to someone unknown or someone who appears to be doing things for us. There is nothing wrong with it, but learn to be your own support. Remind yourself 'ok after this day or this stage I will be back in control'.... Sarama was shouldering a lot all by herself, she needed to share the load or at least vent it out.. It's an observation it was oddly missing in her life. As a result Shane was able to worm his way into her life.
Don't try to do it all by yourself. Raise a flag early so that you get people to help you do the damage control.
Pause and introspect after every bad relationship. Sarama was just out of the relationship with Mathew Kenney and she had not evaluated what went wrong. Chances are high that Mathew and Shane had a lot in common.
Fear can trigger a series of mistakes. Don't let fear control you. Face it head on. Show up. I wish Sarama had gone back to her investor Jeffrey Chodorow to explain the financial loss and had stayed away from giving money to Shane after the first 2 times.
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